Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Living the Life of My Dreams: An Interview with Caryn FitzGerald
Caryn has been writing in several genres for over thirty years. Some of her recent work includes: Tulips in the Sand: A Riley Matthews Mystery and Fish Sticks, Books and Blue Jeans - Teaching kids to be thankful for everything (yes, even Fish Sticks) everyday! which she co-authored with her daughter, Sami.
Caryn recovered from a decade long struggle with bulimia and anorexia and is a domestic violence survivor. She shares her personal story and assists others by providing encouragement and guidance in overcoming adversity. Caryn’s belief is that a full, abundant life can be created and enjoyed regardless of one’s past. Today she enjoys the blessings of playing from home as a writer and speaker, fulfilling her passions by assisting others in learning the techniques required to create the life of their dreams. I was really excited to talk more with Caryn about this.
Shelly Rachanow: You write a wonderful blog called Embracing My Journey. Tell us more about that.
Caryn FitzGerald: I spent the first half of my life going through the motions and being bored with life. Over a decade ago, the Universe stepped in and in an instant I found myself moving in a different, more exciting and meaningful direction.
EmbracingMyJourney.com was created out of my desire to share my passion for living a life full of purpose while encouraging others to do the same. My goal is to share real-life stories from those who have transitioned, connecting them with those who are seeking something better. To inspire and encourage people to take a chance on themselves and go for what they really desire in life. Several times a week, I highlight and share the stories, guidance and wisdom from people who are living a life full of passion and purpose. Doing something meaningful each day and paying it forward. My intention is to contribute to the world by connecting those who are seeking with those who have the guidance to share.
Shelly Rachanow: I love the following quote on your web site: “A full, abundant life can be created regardless of one’s past.” Why do you believe that’s the case?
Caryn FitzGerald: Because I’m living proof it’s true. So often people are caught up reliving the drama of their past and the bad things that happened in their lives. It’s this cycle that keeps them grounded in negativity, lack and self-doubt. I’ve been there. I spent a decade struggling with anorexia and bulimia and abusive relationships. I could have easily continued to feed off of those negative experiences. I made a conscious decision not to. Instead of festering in it, I chose to use what I learned from those experiences to assist others and to contribute to the world instead of take away from it.
A perfect example is when something bad happens and instead of learning from it and releasing it, a person calls their seventeen friends and tells them each the story all over again, relishing the drama over and over again. It’s a slippery slope, and yet, it’s one anyone can avoid falling over by making one simple decision. The decision to live focused on the positive and letting the negative float on by.
Caryn FitzGerald: Several years ago I began writing my blog, EmbracingMyJourney.com. The blog is all about living a passionate and purposeful life. I knew I was not the only person who had turned their life around and was living like this, so I put out some feelers and asked people to share their stories. The response was overwhelming. Hundreds of people emailed me to say they were living the life of their dreams. After two years, I was asked if I would consider putting together a series of interviews and essays in ebook format. It felt right and that is how Living the Life of My Dreams: Essays & Interviews with 30 Ordinary People Living EXTRAordinary Lives was born.
On March 9, 2011, Living the Life of My Dreams: Essays & Interviews with 30 Ordinary People Living EXTRAordinary Lives will be released online at: http://www.livingthelifeofmydreams.com/ available for immediate download. Thirty people are sharing their personal stories, the lessons they learned along the way and their how-to suggestions for people who are ready to move out of the boring and mundane and into the exciting life of their dreams. The ebook has been met with rave reviews and on launch day, there are partners from all over the world joining us in spreading the word. Our goal is to reach over 1,000,000 people and encourage them to decide and take action, moving into the life they truly desire.
Shelly Rachanow: As someone who was once in a career that wasn’t my dream, I know how hard it can be for people to take a chance and pursue what they love. What are some things you’ve learned from the interviews you have done?
Caryn FitzGerald: The common theme that runs through all of the interviews I have done and from my personal experience is that one must make a choice to go for what they really want. Too often we get caught up in the path that others set up for us. Whether it be our parents, our spouses, school counselors or friends, it is common to rely upon external people or things to guide us. The issue is that when someone chooses to follow the guidance of others, they are making a decision. Then when things don’t work out well or happiness isn’t achieved, it’s easy to blame others.
The key factor I have learned is that it is important to follow one’s heart and move forward along the path that brings you joy. It is a lot easier to take these chances and move step by step towards one’s true destiny than it is to remain stagnant in a place that doesn’t allow for true happiness to radiate through.
Shelly Rachanow: What advice do you have for people who aren’t sure what their purpose is...or who aren’t feeling passionate or inspired about the life they are currently living?
Caryn FitzGerald: Give yourself a break. Take time for yourself, do something that makes you feel alive and excited. Reconnect with nature. Read a book that really catches your attention. Do something different. There are times when you won’t know exactly what your calling or destiny is. And that’s okay. If you are set up to do something that really causes a pit in your stomach or that nagging feeling of distress, don’t do it. Make small changes. Find new places to spend time, donate to others, add more laughter to your life. Begin removing the people and things you find not bringing you pleasure from your life. Then focus upon what you do what in your life and watch how the space will begin to fill in with these goodies.
Remember that you are responsible for how you fill your days, who you surround yourself with, what you contribute to the world. You don’t have to make all of the changes in one day, just take aim at what you’re seeking and continue to move forward, one step at a time.
Shelly Rachanow: And last, the 'If Women Ran the World Blog' question for everyone - What would you do if you ran the world?
Caryn FitzGerald: I would make it a requirement for everyone to learn about the power of intention and the Law of Attraction from childhood. I would like to see meditation as a daily practice, a time when the world goes silent and inward as a community for 10-15 minutes and people receive the peace, calm and clarity that accompanies meditation. I believe when people are at peace with themselves, it is reflected in their daily lives and in the way they treat others.
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